Tuesday, March 10, 2009
So, I am at home today (instead of being at work). This extreme fatigue and general lack of motivation seems to be from the Lexapro. In addition to constantly being tired, I have been having very vivid, extremely violent nightmares and an increased appetite.
I am going to speak with my doctor about stopping the medication. I was never on medications prior to PPD and anxiety, and I really do not like being on meds now. I do not like how I am feeling on this med.
I would much rather not take any meds, and just see how I feel without any meds in my system.
Who knew having a baby would cause all this?
Babies are very expensive - but in addition to the monthly diapers and formula - I now have to pay for psych and therapy appts and meds.....
Monday, March 9, 2009
So, I haven't posted in a while. Since my last post, I feel as though I've made a little bit of improvement with this whole PPD and anxiety.
The depression is not so much as issue, as the anxiety is.
The anxiety about being home alone with Keelyn is my main issue. Fortunately, I'm only home alone with her for 2 full days/week. However, these 2 days feel like an eternity and cause me so much anxiety. After these full days alone with her, I often find myself needing to take off work while the baby is at Nan's just so I can "recover" from the day alone with the baby.....because I feel so drained.
The weather has been really nice here the past couple of days, and the sun and warm temps have really helped me feel better in the depression aspect. I thank God for the wonderful blessing of this warm weather.
All in all I feel like I am managing my PPD and anxiety better - however, I still do not feel 100% like myself.
I keep praying that I will feel "normal" again. I just really feel as though time is the main thing to help me here.
Thanks for reading!
Sunday, March 1, 2009
So the weekend is coming to and end. Shane was with me all weekend so that was nice. (Every 3rd weekend he has to do drill at the Coast Guard Reserve).
I feel so much better on the weekends when Shane is here since I'm not alone with the baby. Although on Saturday morning I felt a lot of anxiety and had to take a Klonopin. I just felt really anxious and overwhelmed - and I didn't even know why. Can we all say Panic Attack? So, to prevent a panic attack I had to take a Klonopin - which was weird since Shane was at home with me. This PPD and anxiety thing is very hard to grasp what will freak me out and what I'm ok with.
Today, my mother took the baby for the day, and I've basically been sleeping and eating....
Not very productive. So, now I feel guilty for not being productive around the house and I feel anxious for having to clean the house during the week when I have the baby and work.
And I feel guilty for eating so much crappy food all weekend.
It's all just guilt, guilt, guilt.....
I feel like a fat, lazy, crappy food eating, unkempt mother.
Ok - enough feeling sorry for myself. I will try to take it day by day and have a good week.....
Wednesday, February 25, 2009
Today was my off day from work, and home alone with baby - which basically (to me) equals ANXIETY.
I did not take the Klonopin, as it basically knocks me out. So, I pushed on throughout the day without my anti-anxiety med. (Isn't it awful I can't face a day with my own baby without having to take anti-anxiety meds?).
Anyway - I felt like crap, with this cold epidemic thing going around. However, I forced myself to attend my Stroller Striders class.
Felt like crap through class physically, but mentally it felt good talking to the other moms.
Scarfed down a protein bar on the drive home.
Fought with baby for her to take a nap.
Cleaned out the basement.
Went through motions of "playing" with baby.
Gave baby a bath.
Did not feel as anxious as other days, but still felt uneasy being alone with her.
Had opportunity to drop her off at family member's house - but once again, stuck it out.
Sticking it out, and roughing through it is not helping me.
So what if it's been 4 months and I still need help?
I really need to start dropping her off again on my days off from work and taking breaks. I think it's the breaks which enable me to recharge and face this PPD demon.
I WILL NOT FEEL WEAK OR GUILTY BECAUSE I STILL NEED HELP.
Tuesday, February 24, 2009
So, the therapy appointment went well (as always). I always feel a sense of renewal after leaving these therapy appointments. Maybe its because after every appointment, I view it as a new start to tackle this PPD, maybe its because I just get to get out of the house or maybe its just because its nice to talk to someone who's job is to listen to me.
Today flew by.
I woke up at 4am to workout (but only did a brief workout - due to having a little cold).
I showered and then since I had time to spare, I just laid downstairs in the dark and tried to just breathe and clear my head of all thoughts (I got this technique from attending a yoga session one time). I felt extremely relaxed (also because I took the Klonopin 45 mins earlier), but then the sound of a crying baby quickly brought me back to the ugly reality of having to go through another day.
So, Shane dropped off the baby and I had some time alone to eat some egg beaters cooked in the microwave and peruse the internet (my two favorite things).
Went to work, left early due to feeling sick. Came home, took a nap. Picked up Keelyn, picked up my dog, picked up a consignment shop exersaucer, made dinner, walked on the treadmill, cleaned the kitchen, swept the floor, gave the baby a bath and now I'm about to go to sleep.
So, the question remains: Do I still feel this impending doom about my life with baby? Yes.
Monday, February 23, 2009
So, I feel as though I've "relapsed" back to my first encounter with this damn PPD and anxiety. I feel extremely hopeless, depressed and I have this anxiety feeling in the pit of my stomach that just won't go away (even with the assistance of my anti-anxiety med). I feel as though I just am not supposed to be a mom, and that I'm selfish and I want my time back to myself. I made a huge mistake having this baby, and I don't know what type of path lies ahed of me....
I have a therapy appointment tonight, so hopefully I can get some of this crap under control.
Friday, February 20, 2009
So, recently I have again been toying with the idea of just not being here anymore - and when I say "here", I really don't know what I mean. Confused?
I don't want to die, I don't enjoy life anymore though either - what's a girl to do?
I really kind of like my husband and don't want to leave him, but I do feel like running away from the baby. But the husband and baby are a package deal - so I can't leave. I'm stuck.
I am really feeling like the meds are doing the best they'll do, and the rest is up to me to try and do some self talk to further help myself out.
Funny how a 16 lb baby can scare the hell out of me and cause me anxiety problems.
What's up with that?
Thursday, February 19, 2009
So, I haven't been to work since last Tuesday. Shane has been dropping the baby off at a family member's house and I've been sleeping (there goes that guilt again) while the baby has been away.
So, I am off to work today and am going to put on a smile and do my work thing.
Wednesday, February 18, 2009
I am going to attempt to write two posts a day: one negative, and one positive.
The negative thought of the day was "Got Guilt?"
So, moving on to the positive thought/moment of the day:
I went to my Stroller Striders class this morning and had a great workout and enjoyed the company of all the other mothers. (For those of you who don't know, I REALLY enjoy working out!). I then grabbed a McDonald's coffee at the drive-through and enjoyed my coffee while feeding Keelyn her bottle.
I then went through the motion of "playing" with Keelyn, and she was giggling and laughing while I kissed her neck. I really enjoyed being her mother at that moment....
I hope to have more "moments" like that.
At my darkest hour, my psychiatrist (yes, I have a psychiatrist) said for me to "let go of the guilt". I felt guilty about leaving my husband, Shane, to go stay at my mom's for a respite. I feel guilty for having family always watching Keelyn while I stay home and sleep all day. I feel guilty that Shane has to deal with all of this. I feel guilty that I have this illness. I feel guilty for wanting a child that I really don't want now. I feel guilty for missing work. I feel guilty just for feeling guilty.
I feel this guilt on a daily basis, and I cannot just "let it go", no matter how hard I try.
Tuesday, February 17, 2009
My therapist (yes, I have a therapist) tells me that PPD is a real illness, just like cancer - yet the stigma associated with a mental health disorder is much different than a physical illness that everyone can see.
If one is sick, then one needs to nurse oneself back to health - no matter it be mental or physical health.
Am I embarrassed by "airing my dirty laundry"? Yes and no.
However, if this blog can help other mom's with their PPD illness - then it is worth sharing my story on the world wide web.
Okay, so 10/22/08 the little tater tot popped out, and then 24 hours later we left the hospital.
For the first few days, I was a mess with what I guess the professionals label the "baby blues". I was crying for most of the day, and was extremely hormonal. I second guessed myself on why I even wanted a child.
My husband went back to work 2 days after being home from the hospital, and I was extremely scared to be all alone with a newborn for about 12 hours a day.
For the next 5-6 weeks I was crying, extremely anxious, tired and just "in a daze". It was cold out, so I could not get out much. I actually looked forward to the pediatrician appointments, just so we could get out.
It was during these weeks that I became extremely depressed and anxious. I literally wanted to give Keelyn up for adoption, or take my own life. It was either her or me. I never felt the urge to hurt her, I just wanted to give her away.
Week 7 is when the "shit hit the fan", so to speak. I went to my primary care doctor and told her of my situation. She prescribed me 20mg of Lexapro right from the get go, along with Xanax. I took the Lexapro and Xanax and 3 days later I basically had a nervous breakdown. I could not sleep, I could not eat and I could not function. I was an anxiety ridden zombie going through the motions of life with a newborn.
I called my mother, and she took me right away to a psychiatrist who informed me that the 20mg of Lexapro was like 100 cups of coffee hitting into my system. And the Xanax was just like having a couple of beers.
I was a mess. My mother said she had never seen me look as bad as I did the day she took me to the psychiatrist.
I was honest with the psychiatrist and told him that I was contemplating suicide and that I just could not stand the constant anxiety along with taking care of a baby 12 hours a day. The doctor gave me two options: go to the hospital or have a respite at my mother's house.
I obviously chose my mother's house, as I would have jumped off a tall bridge before being admitted to a hospital.
I spent only 3 nights at my mother's house - but I slept the entire time and started on 5mg of Lexapro and .5mg of Klonopin 2x/day, as well as birth control to try and right some of my hormones.
So, I am now at 4 months post partum and I am still facing daily challenges and constant fatigue due to the medicine. I still think about suicide, and I still think about just leaving the country.
I hope to be able to fight my way out of this dark hole and become the woman I once was.
I dated my husband for 6 years before we got married. We had been married 2 years when we decided to try for a child. We had to use fertility treatments, and while we got pregnant with only the second round of treatments, the treatments and constant appointments were very stressful.
Once we found out we were pregnant we were shocked and scared!!
I did not understand how I was second guessing myself about having a child the moment I found out I was pregnant, especially since we wanted a child so much!
I slowly became excited about the little tater tot growing inside of me, and my husband and I were anxious to see what the little one would look like.
Well, 10 months later, little Keelyn Grace made her entrance into this world and into our lives on 10/22/2008. Since then my world has been a dark, dark place....